Risk takers are game changers!

I have always been a person ruled by my mind and driven by my fears. Rather than being a
person ruling my mind and driving away my life fears. Before taking any decision, I had a fear of things not turning out my way, sooner I realized I am living for myself and not for people who bother me and not for any third person, then why think about society and take decision or think about consequences and take decision.

The moment I was struck by fear I just reminded myself with a thought, “Fear is a conditioned response, a life-draining habit that can easily consume your creativity and spirit if you are not careful. When fear rears its ugly head, beat it down quickly. The best way to do that is to do the thing you fear, fast!”

We are so much over powered with fear that we start being a slave of an unknown master. We fear and dare to kill the fear, we live in shackles, and fear exists in every vein. We  don’t take risk as we have a fear of failing, as we fear the massacre of sinking ships and forget the hand which is stretched for the risk takers and the one’s who has will of writing their own destiny.

 So why not today, let's decide that we will be a risk taker; at least taking risk will assure us of our  existence rather than dying slowly- slowly with pill of fear. I feel, fear is a way of telling you that what all things you want is just another side of the fear, so overcome it and live a life you always wanted to live.

It’s better to be a soldier and die with your will, than to be a mouse and die with someone else’s pill.

Take risk with everything whether it’s decision of going to a different place for studies or
it’s a personal decision. But whatever decision you take, make sure its a well thought and determined one.

Risk takers are game changers; they turn the table on their side and rule the world. Imagine, if Bhagat Singh would have been horrified of death, he wouldn't have made a mark in the national struggle. If the first person who climbed, Mount Everest, Edmund Hillary, had fear of heights or fear of losing, had he made it, no!

People who don’t fear are indeed the people who live life freely and fully, they are the ones
who have freedom from their thoughts and theories, they just have one the theory, and i.e. life is larger than fear.

Grow from your trials!

It’s a common belief that life is not fair and it turns its ugly head at us. But the reality is completely opposite of what we think because life is not happening to us, it is responding to us. So, whatever we are thinking or believing, it is being  mirrored by life.     

    
  Many of us when faced by obstacles don’t overcome it rather we are consumed by them. As a result of which, we reduce our life and energy to zilch. Have we ever thought why are we confronted by obstacles? The reaason for so is that we need to grow and become wise with every obstacle. When we have a problem it is a way of universe to tell us that where you are, is not where you deserve to be.  It is asking us to leave that thing. We are asked to leave something because we are eyeing for stones but there are jewels in store for us. Accept the change and step into a better and new world.

        Change is inevitable, so welcome it and take it as a way to grow both mentally as well as spiritually. Change makes us grow  and  as  well as impart strength  to deal with  life’s happenings.  We grow with each experience and learning, with all happenings and mis-haps. It is part of life, so don’t stop it with your negative thoughts, have a will of a soldier and conquer all your battles. As a great person said, If you stop your growth, a day will come when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.

  

     Whenever I am  faced by a  problem  I  remind  myself  that it is for  your own good, life is  better crafted by god than what we have crafted for ourselves. I read  somewhere, the afternoon knows what the morning never suspected likewise, I didn’t  know my real strengths until I overcame  obstacles and learn to trust  myself and the process of life because  what happens, happens  for a  reason and happens  for the best.

   

     I consider that I am growing and being strong because with every experience one 

grows and learns. I believe growth and strength goes hand in hand.  I never  knew  how  strong  I  was  until I overcame problems of  my  life. I am going to be  a learner throughout my life  because I believe the  day  one stops  learning,  one  stops  winning. I am going to have a smile on my face always as I have learnt to let go, trust myself and believe in god’s way of working.

Decision Making

We meet all kinds of people in our life whether good, bad or neutral. Our parents always reiterate that character is built through friends and they always leave a mark on you. The surroundings always have an impact on you.

Still though, most of us believe that no one can affect us or have an influence on us till the time we want. Slowly, everything slips out of control and it all proves to be a big illusion.

 In my own life, I had to put up with all kinds of people, frustrated, happy, irritated, confused, and focused. After spending time with a frustrated personality, I felt the same after a while.  Similarly, after being with a confused friend, I lost my own clarity and focus.

Very soon, I realized that even if we didn’t pay heed to our surroundings, they always played a major part in shaping our personality. There is no need, however, to cut down on the number of friends. You must instead spend more time with the people who matter. Then, the surroundings will motivate you and make you believe that with courage and positivity you can be at a better place than where you are right now.

I noticed that after spending even ten minutes with a focused person, I felt much better than the whole trail of other experiences. I did help my friends when they needed me but was now selective of influence. Spending your time with a happy, jovial, wise and knowledgeable individual is always a better option. It also helps you achieve your goals faster.

Believe that you are an absolute creation made to achieve abundance. The positive influence will pump you with courage to counter a new level of difficulties would also raise your bar a notch higher. 

Belief, is what you are!

Belief can change our world is still an alien concept to zillions. It’s not that people are doing wrong but they are living a life of denial. A life of denial is when we think our reality is harsh and cruel, and our reality is defined by others. We label ourselves and others as losers’ or winners and we do this so strongly that our life becomes nothing more than that label.

Here is a story, I read somewhere a while back which is going to break-free you and make you understand how the belief system works. One day, a young boy was passing through the woods. He saw an egg, fallen from a nest. He took the egg home and placed it beneath a brooding hen with the hope that it would hatch along with other eggs.

As all the eggs hatched, including the one found in the woods; there was one egg which looked different but the boy thought, “a chicken it must be.” The young bird heard this and thought, “I am a chicken.”

As the chicks started to grow, they started scratching and pecking for food. Boy once again noticed the odd chick in the bunch, and said, “That one looks different but a chicken it must be.”

The bird heard this and thought, “I am a chicken.”

One day, a wise sage was passing through the town. As he came upon the boy’s place, he noticed a young eagle foraging for food among the boy’s chickens. “How unusual,” he thought.

“Where did you get that eagle?” he asked the boy. “And how did you teach it to behave as a chicken?”

“That’s not an eagle,” he replied. “That is a chicken. It was hatched by the hen.”

The sage smiled and said, “I disagree. That is, in fact, an eagle and I will prove it.” He picked up the young eagle and held it high. “Fly,” he said, “for you are an eagle.”

The bird heard this and thought, “That cannot be true, and I was a chicken, so a chicken I must be.” She flapped her wings and landed on the ground, where she began to scratch and peck for food.

The sage again picked up the bird and he held it up high. “Fly,” he said, “for you are an eagle.” But again the same result, out of fear and that she believed she was chicken, she couldn’t fly.

Sage picked her up the third time and took her to the top of a hill, even further away from the safety of her farm. This time, he held the young bird and whispered,

“You cannot fly because you think you are a chicken and you have been raised as one, but for once believe you are an eagle, trust your wings and you will fly, just spread your wings.”

She heard this and wondered, she stretched out her wings and for the first time, saw the strength and power in them. “Fly,” said the sage!

She flapped her wings and felt the wind carry her higher into the sky. She soared high in the sky and believed she was an eagle.

Many of us our like that little eagle, holding back and believing to be someone else as we are taught to live in a certain way and be too. We have been labeled, it’s time to discover who we are, let that inner eagle be out and trust the strength of our wings. Fly high!

Bask in the Present!

Nowadays, most of us have forgotten to live in present as either we are living in past or in future. 

We have forgotten the meaning of living in the present moment and enjoying it. We either are worried about past regarding why it happened and what was the reason or we are bothered about how will be our future.

    Rather we should just make one saying our bookmark, “Past is history, future is mystery and this moment is a gift that's why it's called present". This simple saying explains everything; we should not be pondering about are past and wasting our energy rather we should learn from the past and let go of it. The experience should be used in present to make it better and we should work hard in the present moment to make our future better rather than pondering how will be our future.

   When we focus on what is correct in the present moment we get the needed energy and can focus on it completely. Living in the current moment is very important because most of the time we think we will do this task some other day but we forget that future is uncertain. We plan our next ten years, where we are not even sure about the very next moment of our life. 

  It’s rightly said live life king size, do what you want to do. Live the moment, be happy and thankful for all goodness and blessings of life. Be happy and find happiness within and not outside. If you are happy, you make others happy too. 

A little poem to give an insight of this:





When I was a kid, I wanted to be an adult

But when I became an adult I wanted my childhood back

May be thinking of future didn’t make me live my childhood fully

Why do I want to live in future and stick to the past?




When I had my best friend, I wanted him to go

As I didn’t like his habits and he embarrassed me

When he left I realized his worth and wanted him back

Why didn’t I believe in the present and in the person?




When my mom and dad were after me,

I felt my freedom was blocked and I felt suffocated

But when they didn’t care about me

I felt my world upside down,

Why I am never happy in the present?




As I was never happy in the living moment

I made my life a mess and realised

How important was to be happy in the now

And this moment made my future fruitful too.

Attitude

Attitude is a word which seems to be small but has a big impact. Attitude means to have either a positive approach or a negative approach towards life. It is the way one looks at one’s life or one deals with the problems in one’s life. “Attitude decides your altitude”, think big, get big. The bigger one thinks, the greater one becomes. There are many choices in life but sometimes it is just the choice of ‘attitude’. The only disability in one’s life is a bad attitude. Moreover, our attitude towards life determines, life’s attitude towards us. We cannot change the past… we cannot change the fact that people will act in a certain way. We cannot change the inevitable. The only thing we can do is play on one string we have, that is our attitude. Life is 10% what happens to us and 90% how we react to it. So we are in charge of our attitudes, chose it.

                    There is a little difference in people, but that little difference makes a big difference. The little difference is attitude. The big difference is whether positive or negative. Let’s start this way , when we always thought negatively did we achieve anything, NO, we didn’t, so for a change lets  think positively, let’s give it a chance. Instead of thinking what one is missing, let’s start thinking what one is having and others are missing. Here is a thought,” Walk on the road as if you are the king or you don’t care who the king is”. Approach brings a paramount change in one’s life.  A man is a product of his thoughts, what he thinks he becomes. When one thinks positive, one has positive result, just believe in one. Be confident and confidence will make one won many battles. Always remember one thing, “Thoughts become things”, means positive thinking, positive product. To enjoy life, love yourself, believe in oneself and one will definitely be living life king size. Always move ahead, never look back, what happened, happened for a reason and has taught one something, believe in one thing, “Past is history ,future is mystery and this moment is a gift, that’s why it’s called  ‘present’”. One should live in present and should not ponder about what happened in past or what will happen in future, NO, don’t think about all this, just live in present and one will make one’s future.

                  The positive thinker sees the invisible, feels the intangible and achieves the impossible.             I remember when I was a child; I took part in a 100m race and came third. This disappointed me very much but my mother told me one thing, “try and try until you succeed” and I followed it and when the next time I participated I came first and this made me believe in this great saying even strongly. “Failures are the stepping stone to success”, so never give up. When one fails, one should always remind oneself that to have the bed of ‘roses’, one has to cross the bed of ‘thorns’ and failure is  just one’s success  being postponed. Failures bring out best in one person, they teach us and guide us and if we take the failures with a right attitude, from that point of time onwards we start progressing towards success. There is a famous saying,” Failures should never go to heart and success should never go to head”. I remember once I was having a discussion with one of my friend, he said to me, “Erasers are made for those who make mistakes”, I replied, “Erasers are made for those who are willing to correct their mistakes”,   attitude matters!! When one gets into a tight place, and everything go against one, till it seems as though one could not hold a minute longer, never give up then, for that is the place and time the tide will turn. One should always keep on trying. When there is heavy rain, all birds fly away in search of shelter, its only the eagle which flies high above in the sky, just like this, challenges are common to all it is the attitude that makes difference. Either one can complaint that “roses” have “thorns” or can rejoice that “thorns” have “roses”, life is the way one takes it. What one has to do, is to learn the rules of the game and then play it better than anyone else. Be a leader in one’s life, do not follow the crowd rather lead the crowd. Confidence comes with a positive approach. If one is positive one can win over the world. A pessimist sees the difficulty in every opportunity; an optimist sees an opportunity in every difficulty.

                     Never say no to anything in life, accept the way life is coming and focus on one’s approach  because, “what one resists, it persists”.  Always focus on what one wants rather what one doesn’t wants.  Everything in the universe starts with a single thought; try to keep that thought positive. A very famous man said,” I can’t change the direction of the wind but I can adjust my sails to always reach my destination”.  This means one cannot change what is happening but one can change one’s attitude towards it. When the sun rises it rises for everyone, so nature has in abundance for, everyone of us, all we have to do is to allow it to enter our life and act upon the opportunity when it comes.

                When we put faith, hope and love together we can raise positive kids in a negative world. Having positive attitude should be the motto of one’s life and everything will fall in its place on its own. Attitude covers everything; it portrays outer as well as inner personality of a human being. Always believe,” whatever the mind can conceive it can achieve”. Life is not measured by how many breaths one take but by how many moments take one’s breath away.  Right attitude, brings right opportunities and makes a right person. Trusting oneself and god is the main essence of attitude. What we imagine, we can have it.  Last words of mine would be live life king size, be an intrepid, be careful than being impetuous and rather than complaining “why me?” always say “try me!!”Rather than life giving one a challenge, give life a challenge.